I'd be delighted too, if they cared enough to check me out. So I do see it the same.I am sorry you don't see it the same, but I find checking out the rescues as being a positive, even when it's me.
It seems that there is a basic misconception (based partly, no doubt, on experience with half-assed rescues who do more harm than good) that to go into a rescue is a last resort for an animal and that any adopter is preferable. I think you mentioned something like this before.
So that's what I was hoping to convince this woman of--that she had a choice when it came to who she gives these animals to. I'm sure that, after being in a job like hers year in and year out, you could become convinced that nothing you do makes a difference.