A horrible decision!

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Post   » Fri Jun 25, 2004 2:02 pm

Long story!

My life is pretty bad right now and I am very concerned for my pigiges!

My car is shot - the transmission is shot, the breaks squeak, all 4 tires need replacing, the inspection sticker expired and the repairs to fix that will cost too much, etc. I tried to get an auto loan, but that turned up with nothing. I got approved for loans and got calls from dealerships, but now no one is calling me back. I guess it fell through - I don't know! My current car runs at the moment (at least it did this morning) but every time I get into it, I gamble whether or not I'll make it to my destination and whether or not I'll make it safely. My family is of NO help. The 2 people that have the money won't give it to me until I've hit rock bottom and am thrown out of my apartment (their help won't do much then, but it will ease their conscience...so whatever) and my mother offered to get a credit card and take a cash advance from them, but although she's gotten approved for several cards, she's turned them all down stating she didn't like something and is waiting for a better offer. That means, she won't help either!

So, I rely on a car to get to work. Without a car, there is no job. Without a job, I can't pay my rent...you can guess where this is going. I'm terrified that I will find myself not able to even afford veggies or even worse, find myself homeless and have to find a home for the piggies immediately. That will be worse than being homeless.

So, long story made even longer, I think it's time to prepare for the near future crashing of my life and start finding a home for the piggies. I have 4 piggies but I'm only worried about 2 since I know the rescue lady will take back Jessica and Alisa. So, that leaves Doc (neutered) and Penny. You can go to my profile to find a link with pictures of them.

I live in Suffolk County, Long Island and there are no shelters and I don't know if the resuce woman would be willing to take my other 2 pigs. I really want to try everything I can to line up a home for them in case she doesn't. I don't know of anyone else that will take them and take good care of them.

It's breaking my heart to do this, but I can't stand the thought of them suffering because of my life falling apart. If I have to be homeless, I'll be homeless, but at least I'll know that I took care of my animals first.


...what, what, what?

Post   » Fri Jun 25, 2004 2:07 pm


If you had been any closer, I could have 'fostered' or baby-sat them for a couple of months if the worst happens.

Maybe you can find someone willing to take them on if the worst happens?


Post   » Fri Jun 25, 2004 2:50 pm

If it comes to it, I'm sure that the rescue I work with wouldn't mind fostering them until you could get back on your feet. I know we have a foster home up in the Bronx, and several in N. Jersey.

Email Marci Scaccetti about it GPLOVER78@yahoo.com

She runs the rescue, so she has the final say.


Post   » Fri Jun 25, 2004 3:03 pm

Your piggies are beautiful. I have a young male who is not neutered, I read Doc is. Is Penny fixed? I have been looking to adopt, although, a foster sounds better in your situation seeing how you love them so.


Post   » Fri Jun 25, 2004 3:06 pm

I also think fostering is the way to go, as you'd love to have them back when things get better.

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Post   » Fri Jun 25, 2004 3:08 pm

Thank you Ange1icflowers! I emailed her just now. I hope she can help. I think I'm looking more for a permanent home instead of fostering because 1) I don't know how long it will take me to get back on my feet and don't want my pigiges to miss the chance of finding a great home while my life is in limbo. 2) I might have to move out of state. If my cousin doesn't let me move in with her or for some reason it doesn't work out, then I might have to beg my mother to find a way to come up with some money for a plane ticket for me. I'm sure she'll take me in, but it's getting to CA that will be the trick. But anyway, that might be my only choice and of course, I couldn't take my piggies with me.

I'm also starting to look for a home for my cat. This is so sad. So sad. So sad.

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Post   » Fri Jun 25, 2004 3:09 pm

Chele, no Penny is not fixed.


Post   » Fri Jun 25, 2004 3:10 pm

Hang in there! Do you have a car pooling option? Public transportation? Telecommuting? Consider contacting the dealerships again. And in the meanwhile, stash everything you can, decide if there is anything you don't need that you can sell, clip coupons, find a roommate if you don't have one. (I'm not sure what your situation is as far as work and home, so I'm just rambling ideas.)

I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you and your piggies!

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Post   » Fri Jun 25, 2004 3:13 pm

TWP, I've thought of all those options. No carpooling that I know of (I just starting working here and don't really know anyone well yet...I'm sure no one would be willing to pick me up and drive me home every day). There is no train or bus to my job and even if there was, without a car, I can't even buy veggies or shavings for the piggies. I don't have anything of value to sell - certainly not anything I can buy a car with. As for a roomate, with one bedroom in a small apt., that won't work. Plus, I'm very sure my landlord would not allow a stranger to move in as he lives right next door.

Believe me, if there was a better way, I'd take it! :(

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Post   » Fri Jun 25, 2004 3:23 pm

Do you have any friends that might be willing to help you out - maybe let you move in with them, a spare room, etc?

I Love Lucy

Post   » Fri Jun 25, 2004 3:25 pm

Any option of moving closer to your job so that you can walk/bike?

I Love Lucy

Post   » Fri Jun 25, 2004 3:26 pm

Or even moving near someone who works where you do so you could carpool more easily.


Post   » Fri Jun 25, 2004 3:29 pm

If you do have any of the options mentioned by TwoWhitePiggies things could really work out for you. With the cost of gas, insurance, registration fees, inspection etc. etc. you might come out ahead by not owning at this point in time. Especially if you had a roomate you could car pool with......I am in a similar situation at this time. I was laid off after eight years but my husband is working. One salary does not even come close to paying mortgage and bills but so far we have been able to wing it with side jobs.

I wouldn't consider another pet at this time if GP's weren't social animals. I cannot stand Chirpy being solo any longer. He and my female American Eskimo Dog occassionally go nose to nose through the cage and lick but I could not let him out to socialize with the dog. She's friendly through the cage but she would go for Chirpy lose on the floor, she doesn't fool me for a second.

Remember the more you do proactively to resolve the fundemental issues the better you will deal with the anxiety part of it all. You will feel in control of the situation and you will take control as you go through the steps. Good luck and keep us posted.


Post   » Fri Jun 25, 2004 3:30 pm

WT3, I may wind up fostering them if they do go to marci, so you know they'll be in good hands. Marci calls my house the "piggy spa". Heh Heh.

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Post   » Fri Jun 25, 2004 3:30 pm

There is no one that I can move in with that will allow me to take my piggies with me (or even have the room for them). I'm sure my cousin will take me in, but there's no room for me in her small house, let alone my piggies.

If I could afford to move, I could afford to buy a cheap car.

I'm hoping for a miracle, but being realistic about how things will end up. As much as it's breaking my heart into a million pieces to do this, it would be crueler to not line up a home now than to wait and hope for a miracle and would be a thousand times worse if I waited until I was at my lowest to start finding a home and then be limited on time.

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Post   » Fri Jun 25, 2004 4:47 pm

I'm sorry about your situation. The idea to move somewhere that you would not have to depend on a car is very very good advice. Cars are money pits. You have not only the cost of the car but of insurance, liscensing, maintenance, gas, and more. While not having your pets will be painful, it will give you much more flexibility in working things out. I truly hope they work out for the best.

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Post   » Fri Jun 25, 2004 7:54 pm

I hope your fortunes turn around soon! I would like to help in some way since I am almost related! Remember Chester came from the same litter. How can I help you?

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Post   » Fri Jun 25, 2004 8:06 pm

Ithaca is a nice place to live and has great public transportation!

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Post   » Sat Jun 26, 2004 12:01 pm

I MIGHT be okay! My brother has offered to help me...but I can't really sing his praises and he hasn't actually helped me yet.

When I first told my brother my situation, he was of no help at all. As far as my possibility of being homeless, he just said he knows it must feel bad and compared it to when he quit his job, which was different because he didn't have to quit and he had a 401K he could have borrowed from if things got bad. It was totally different.

Well, last night I got home from work to find a letter from my previous employer. Apparently, I had some kind of pension benefit and they owe me $1200! I have to fill out the form they sent and send it back and then just wait for the check. NOW my brother offered to help, after he found out that I am looking for homes for my piggies and that I'm guaranteed money soon. You know, I very rarely have ever borrowed from family (except recently, which I haven't had the chance to pay back yet and that was from my mother for Penny's vet bill) and have NEVER not paid them back in a very quick manner. There is no reason for him to think I won't pay him back if he helped me, but he just didn't want to bother and didn't want to have to wait a few months for his money, which is how long it will take me to get back on my feet. He was going to let me drown before offering a hand, but now that he knows I'll have the money sooner, he's the hero!! I will remember that, believe me!!

Anyway, I'm still getting a run-around from the car dealerships but my brother offered to lend me the money to buy from a private person, so I should be able to get a car within the next week...hopefully!

So, for the moment, I'm going to stop looking for a home for my piggies. As long as I have a car, I'll be alright. I can work out the rest of my problems.

I'll update this when I know something for sure.

Thanks for all your help.

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Post   » Sat Jun 26, 2004 12:03 pm

Good luck! I hope it all turns out for you.

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